Honoring the struggle
Have you ever heard people say “honor the struggle”? Over the last couple of years, I have heard it many times, but I never really understood what it meant, until recently…
See, before I started working with my coach, I felt like a fraud. I talked about being positive, making a difference, working on myself, becoming the person I needed to be in order to attract the right man into my life. And I had been living it in some aspect of my life, but not all of them and most importantly, not consistently. For example, I promoted being positive and putting good juju out in the Universe, but my self-talk was horrible! I felt like I was talking the talk, but not walking the walk. Sometimes I would say I’ll do something, like limit my carb intake, and then not follow-through with it. Well… I learned today that has a name. It’s called Imposter Syndrome. And that is exactly how I felt.
What I failed to realize is that everyone is on a different timeline, including me. So I am making the changes I need to make in some places because either it is serving me to do it then or because it happens to be an easy change to make. I have to learn to trust the process too. When I think about making a change in something that doesn’t serve me, I want results immediately. I forget that things take time and I have to realize that I will be challenged. I need to allow it to happen. I need to stay humble and open to the challenges. I have to be consistent and consistently rise above the norm. And that’s the key isn’t it? It’s not like I have to be perfect all the time or that I have to do it all every time. It’s not even that I have to BE perfect. I just need to do and be better than I was before. And I need to do it one day and one decision at a time, in a consistent way.
Now, fast forwarding 3 months, I took a look at the progress I’ve made and I’m simply speechless. I went from someone who never exercised to exercising 4-5 times a week consistently. I went from never meditating to doing it on a daily basis, even if for just a few minutes. I had little clarity about my career and I am now more sure about what I want to do than I have ever been. I look back and I’m proud of myself! I am happy to say, I no longer feel like a fraud. I am living my truth most of the time. That is not to say that I don’t have ups and downs, or that I son’t struggle to stay on track, but I am making my way. I have embarked on my transformational journey and am proud of the changes and progress I’ve made.
So, what does “honoring the struggle” mean to you? Do you feel like you are honoring the struggle? Do you feel like you are moving forward and focusing on the progress?