Fight for your happiness!
I have the tendency to be a worrier. I’ve worked on that a lot in the recent months, but I still have those moments when I feel the anxiety get to me and I start imagining the worst. So I’ve been reading a lot on managing your mind and thoughts and the latest book on the menu is “How To stop Worrying & Start Living” by Dale Carnegie. Yesterday, I came across a passage that I wanted to share because I think it is something which can help tremendously to overcome the worry, but to also bring more happiness into our lives. It’s not that I’m unhappy at all, but when I am in “one of those moods”, it makes it hard to focus and takes way the joy from my life.
So, this passage is all about Happiness. And what Dale Carnegie says is that we have to “fight for our happiness”. He recommends fighting this good fight by following a “daily program of cheerful and constructive thinking”. Now, there is such a program out there and when I read it, it really resonated with me because it is simple and completely achievable! It is called “Just For Today”.
You see when I think about doing anything, like developing new habits, improving my mental chatter or having the desire to be healthy, I always have these great big plans and then sometimes I get lost because it feels very overwhelming. However, this is something I can get behind because I can do ANYTHING for one day. I think we all can do something for one day. Not worrying about yesterday. Not thinking about tomorrow. By simply being present. In the moment. And we can do it one day at a time!
This was written Sibyl F. Partridge. Dale professes that if we follow it, “we will eliminate most of our worries and increase immeasurably our portion of what the French call la joie de vivre”. So here it is:
Just For Today
- Just for today I will be happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true, that “most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Happiness is from within; it is not a matter of externals
- Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come and fit myself to them
- Just for today I will take care of my body. I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not abuse it nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding
- Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration
- Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways; I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out. I will do at least two things I don’t want to do, as William James suggests, just for exercise
- Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as possible, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticize not at all, nor find fault with anything and not try to regulate nor improve anyone
- Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do things for twelve hours that would appall me if I had to keep them up for a lifetime
- Just for today I will have a program. I will write down what I expect to do every hour. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. It will eliminate two pests, hurrying and indecision
- Just for today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself and relax. In this half-hour sometimes I will think of God, so as to get a little more perspective into my life
- Just for today I will be unafraid, especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those I love, love me.
Just beautiful! So, I ask you. Can you do this today? Can you do this tomorrow? And the day after? One day at a time, until you have brand new habits propelling you towards a high performance life? I know I can. I’ll keep you posted on my progress and I look forward to hearing from you about yours!